What Can I Do?
Unhealthy relationships come in all forms, and abuse between partners can range from extremely obvious or surprisingly subtle.
No matter your current situation, Love is Respect is an extremely useful resource for teens and young adults in relationships. They offer advice on how to build and maintain healthy relationships, tools to determine if your's isn't quite where it needs to be, and resources, should you need someone to talk to about anything.
If you feel like your relationship is unhealthy, you are currently dealing with an abusive partner, or just have questions in general, their help is available 24/7/365. All you have to do is text LOVEIS to 22522, or call 1.866.331.9474 to speak to a Love Is Respect advocate.
You can visit Love Is Respect's website here, or keep reading for some quick tips on dealing with an abusive dating partner.
If your partner is attempting to control you via phone calls, text messages, or social media...
Turn off your phone -- This can temporarily stop floods of phone calls, text messages, emails, etc. Just don't forget to tell a parent and/or trusted friend how to contact you!
Don't respond to harassing calls, messages, or posts -- Responding only adds fuel to the fire, encouraging the behavior in the future. Ignore them, no matter how difficult it may be.
Save abusive voicemails, texts, posts, etc. -- Be sure to show them to someone you trust, like a parent, friend, school counselor, etc.
Block them from your phone, social media accounts, etc. -- Cut your abuser off completely. It will be much harder for them to contact you if they have no access to your phone and/or social media accounts.
If your partner is abusing you physically or sexually...
Realize NO Amount of Violence is Normal in a Relationship -- Many victims who have grown up in abusive households believe violence is just a normal part of relationships. This couldn't be further from the truth.
Speak Out -- Too many victims stay in the shadows for fear of judgment, retaliation from their abuser, or a mindset that whatever occurred was their fault. Seek the support of your family or a trusted friend.
Seek Help Immediately -- Don't wait. Physical and sexual violence only increase in severity as time passes. Let someone trustwothy know what's going on. If your safety is in immediate danger, call 911 without hesitation.
Leave -- Leaving can be difficult, but nothing is worth staying in an abusive relationship.