Safe Passage, Inc. Domestic Violence Intervention & Prevention Services
Serving Dearborn, Franklin, Ohio, Ripley and Switzerland Counties of Indiana
24 Hour Toll-Free Hot Line 1-877-733-1990
The Temptation to Go Back
You know how difficult it was to leave your abuser. You know all the reasons you left. For all those reasons you changed your life and escaped from the constant control. Ultimately, only you can decide whether to go back. Should you find yourself considering returning to that relationship, this information is designed to help you make an informed, mindful decision? We are by no means recommending that you go back. Rather, we are saying that if you ever do think about going back, you should do so with your eyes wide open.
Reconstructing your life after an abusive relationship is never easy. You feel a very real sense of loss. The awful, traumatic events may not completely erase the good times. And now and then it may seem easier just to go back.
Feelings such as these do not in any way indicate that you should return. They are a normal part of the recovery process. However, all survivors must weigh the pros and cons of returning and decide the best course of action. It’s OK to think about it. You are in control of your life now and it’s up to you to make the best choices for your life.
As with any major decision, you need to examine your options thoroughly. Pencil and paper can be very helpful in these difficult decisions. List all the pros and cons of going back and all the pros and cons of staying away.